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Funeral Etiquette


When someone you know passes away, your first instinct is to offer encouragement, help, and support to those affected — but you may not be sure what to say or do. It's okay to feel this way. 

Does it matter what I wear? Can I bring the children? What should I say to the family of the deceased? When should I visit? Park Lawn will do everything we can so you'll feel more comfortable and prepared for attending a Cemetery service. 

 

What to say 

It can be difficult to know what to say to the family of the deceased to express your sympathy. To begin, offer your condolences to the family. If you are comfortable, share a memory of the deceased. In this difficult time, sharing the joy of the deceased’s life can help comfort the bereaved. For example, “I was so sorry to hear of Mary’s passing.  She was always such a wonderful friend to me." 

 

What to wear 

When attending a cemetery service or funeral in the cemetery, dress in dark and subdued colors, such as dark blues, grays, browns, and black. Be sure to dress simply and conservatively. Men are encouraged to wear a jacket and tie paired with dress shoes, while women should choose either a dress or a suit. Any jewelry should be subtle and traditional. 

 

 

When to visit 

Immediately upon learning of a death, it may or may not be appropriate for family and close friends to go to the home of the bereaved to offer sympathy and support. This can be a very overwhelming time for a family. Offering to assist with child care, food preparation, receiving visitors, or service preparations can provide immense comfort during this difficult process. 

 

Flowers 

Sending flowers is a wonderful way to express your sympathy to the family of the deceased, and can bring comfort in a difficult time. Flowers are a meaningful gift that can be enjoyed during and after the funeral service. 

Floral arrangements and plants can be sent to the funeral home or the cemetery to be present at services, or sent to the home of the family directly. 

 

What not to say 

Try not to give comments that minimize the loss, such as "It's probably for the best, because he was suffering too much," or "I've been in your shoes myself."  These will not provide comfort to the bereaved 

Wait for the family to discuss the cause of death. Do not bring it up yourself.. 

 

Mobile phone use 

Smart phones should be turned off or silenced completely during your visit to the cemetery service. Checking your phone is noticeable and is a distraction to those who are trying to pay their respects. . 

 

Children 

Allowing a child to attend a memorial or funeral service can help them say goodbye to a friend or loved one. It is important to not force a child to go, but instead encourage them to share in this tribute with the rest of the family. Before attending, help prepare them by explaining what they might see at the service. 

 

Gifts 

This can be a very draining time for a family. The gift of food is a kind gesture that the family will deeply appreciate and help alleviate the stress of funeral planning and mourning. 

Remembering children in the family is a thoughtful gesture, as this is often a difficult time for them as well. A small gift like a stuffed animal or a book is best. 

Time is precious. Helping with household tasks ease the family's burden. Caring for pets, driving children to school, running errands, or helping around the house are wonderful ways to help the family.


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